vancouver, change, patience, and making new friends ✨

change can be good. it's always pretty good.

Apr 11, 2023

10 april 2023

hey friends. if you didn’t know (since i feel like i’ve been hollering from the mountaintops), micah and i recently moved to vancouver. not washington. but british columbia, baby! 🤠

it’s been about three months in our new home, and it’s been fun and exciting, but also anxiety inducing and nerve wracking, too. i would be lying if i told you that i’ve been facing my deepest, darkest traumas here.

i started this newsletter in a random wework accompanied by my close friends but i never finished it (exposed myself!!!). but, as always, i’m going to talk about the inner workings of me and how i’m adjusting to this massive change, in addition to work, self, and all of the standard things i talk about here.

enjoy! ♡

change is tough

i was born, raised, and lived in massachusetts my entire life. a lot of my identity lives here, and it was incredibly hard to leave it.

i owe a lot of my personality to the northeast— i yell at shitty drivers, forget to use my turn signals, and always take advantage of a middle finger opportunity. i know my dunkin coffee order like the back of my hand (medium iced french vanilla regular), where to get the best lok lak, and the quickest, most efficient way to get to my best friend’s house. you can take the girl outside of massachusetts, but you can’t take the massachusetts out of the girl.

that being said, it’s been a hell of a ride since arriving here. literal whiplash. here’s why:

trying to understand why my parents aren’t as excited as i am about this change (they probably downplay their excitement or probably expect the worst from this)
missing having access to my best friends (and working through the trauma of multiple friend break ups)
grasping that Micah recently lost the job that we moved out here for and having to figure out what our next steps are without being able to fully enjoy our new home is exhausting

but i know we’ll figure everything out. things will work out eventually.

i’m not as patient as i think i am, and that’s ok

when i was in boston, it felt like i had my shit figured out. i was incredibly patient with myself and those around me. lately though, it’s been harder to keep myself from spiraling, from being upset, from inherently making harsh comments and judgments about others in my head.

something that i keep reminding myself is this: it’s not going to be this way forever. growth isn't linear, ever. this is one of those moments in my life where not everything will be sunshine and rainbows, and that’s ok.

making new friends 🐝

i learned that people are just as lonely as i am. we aren’t so different from one another, you and i.

humans crave other humans. it’s how we live! and i’m lucky enough to have really close friends here in vancouver, but it’s not the same as making your own friends (sorry to Joe, Andy, Spencer, and Sammie. i love y’all with my heart but we’re all busy and live so far away from each other). there’s something about meeting a complete stranger and experiencing the awkwardness of silence over a drink or two. 🍻

i’ve met some pretty spectacular people, and i implore you, whoever is reading this, to try out bumble bff for yourself. it feels a bit icky to swipe left or right on people, but once you get over that ick hump, i’m sure you’ll find someone you’ll vibe with right away. it’s a great entryway into the world of friendship building.

that’s it. i hope you enjoyed this shorter newsletter- i’ve been experiencing so many emotions but feel so creatively blocked that i have no idea how to put into words how i feel in a tangible manner. 🤠

as always, let me know what you think either here, on twitter, or instagram. i’d love to chat with you and get to know you better.

stay healthy, stay healing, and stay curious.